Confessions of 'The Perfect Mother!'....

A few times now i have been blessed with this title of the 'perfect mum.' These are some reasons i have been given. 

-I do so much with my kids. 

- My girls are all so easy and well behaved. 

-My kids are always dressed well and my house is always clean

- I seem to always know what to do, in every situation.

Here are my thoughts...

Since when did any of the above make a good parent? 
There are much more important things right?
What difference does it make if my children wore rags and were banned from play dough..this would not make me a bad parent surely? 
Whats with all the pressure?

When i got pregnant with my first child, my grandmother said to me, Children need love, Guidance, and stability. 
And now i have three girls i have to agree with her. (to a point) 

Here are my confessions..on this title that i do not deserve. 

- Most days i can't wait for bedtime! 
-I go to bed most nights, thinking how i could of done better. 
-I do loads of arty,messy,sensory play because it keeps my children quiet for hours..literally.
-I have very little patience, and although i never smack, or belittle i am very strict. 
-My kids still backchat, and beat each other up at times!
-I dress my kids well but 99% of the time i look a state!
-I look at other parents most days and think wow i wish i knew what i was doing like they do! 

More then half of the time, i probably guess at this parenting thing! 
The thing is i'm just very normal, I bust my ass doing house work and have a very tight cleaning schedule. 
I'm a very organised person, which i will blog about very soon. 

Who know's what makes a good parent? 
Is there such a thing?
Because some days i think we just have to do the best we can and hope they listen and turn out ok! 

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